Hold up. I know the title has you girls super excited (maybe), but I’m probably not talking about Cinderella’s in the same way you have in mind.
Let me start with a reference too the original Cinderella. Cinderella was practically an orphan girl. The parents she loved and the only people who truly cared for her were dead. She was left behind with her mean stepmother and stepsisters. Her life, which had been previously filled with joy and blessings, was filled with sorrow, toil, and pain.
Here’s the most interesting part though: she didn’t say a word against her stepfamily. She slaved away. She gave up her past life style and expectations. She gave up her own dreams. All to keep peace. To honor the only family she had left.
Now, here’s the part that is vitally important in this instance. Cinderella was resolved to bear through all her toils. She didn’t seem to be dreaming of “some day” when she would be able to get back at her stepfamily for all they forced her to do. Furthermore, and most importantly, she was not dreaming of a prince to come sweep her away from her troubles.
Now to the point of my post today. We don’t need Cinderella’s who sit around, sighing and crying, dreaming of that fairy tale prince to come sweep their hard life away. Cinderella only got her prince when she was living her life well, not waiting for an unlikely dream. We don’t need Cinderella’s who focus so much on the end of the story that they forget that their living the middle part and doing a sloppy job of making it a story worth reading. Cinderella was content with the here and the now. She lived each moment in the best way she could, leaving a trail of goodness behind her.
We need Cinderella’s who sacrifice of their love and time for other’s sake. We need Cinderella’s who forget about dreaming of a prince because they’re so intent on furthering themselves in virtue. We need Cinderella’s who focus on doing things well, even when the pain is worse than ever. We need Cinderella’s who can inspire generations to live well. We need Cinderella’s who are comfortable in their own skin (after all, our hearts are shown in their best extent when we are ourselves. Not flirting needed.)
I know it’s hard not to put yourself in the place of the reader and look forward to the “happy point” of your story (after all, life doesn’t just end with “happily ever after” in real life after you get married…), but we need to remember that (most…) princesses in fairy tales didn’t sit around waiting for their princes. Snow White was cleaning, cooking, and probably doing laundry for seven dwarves up until she was put under a spell. The Goose Girl had to work as a goose girl after her identity had been stolen from her…no sulking or wishing for princes involved. Belle had to give up all the comfort she knew to live…with a beast. Not a lot of comfort there period. Yet, she didn’t wish for a prince.
If we truly want to be princesses, let’s follow the example of these girls in these fairy tales. Let’s work hard. Let’s care without limitations. Let’s forgive the unforgivable. Let’s sacrifice.
I am going to be a modern day Cinderella. Are you?